THE FAMILY
At one moment of life, man and woman make a decision to transform their relationship into something much longer, meaningfully and more generously then simply having fun. In that decision there are love, courage, trepidation, joy, proud, fear, supremacy and much more other emotions which impregnate just married couple. But that act represent just an introduce in something what is in fact a real purpose of marriage - birth of a child and parentage.
Only then, with appearance of that magic soul, everything is changing. Suddenly, you attract a huge quantity of your family's and friends' attention - those who love you sincerely are happy because of your baby birth, those who don't love you, act that they are happy because of baby birth.
If you are a man, they pat you on the shoulder (especially if it is a boy) and appreciate you more than they did it earlier. If you are a woman, you have all possible attention, advices, help and protection of the Mothers. Both of you are changing, growing and developing and you realize that you finally passed all tests, and that the parentage represents last act of your social initiation.
You are accepted.
Although at the first time that responsibility is scared you a little bit, now you see all priorities and discover new values of your changed status. The Soul which inhabits your baby's body is so cute and darling that many times only a single view on the baby provokes tears in your eyes and thanks to the baby, you experience Love again in its primal and cleanest state.
Baby, with limitlessly quantity of trust and love, leaves own little life into your hands whereby he drag out all the best and the most generously inside you. You two are, at the same time, the best friends of the baby: you care about baby's health and nutrition, you learn baby to speak and walk, explaining and introducing with a world, playing and laughing together, you're happy.
You are family.
Although you have a huge influence on the baby, it doesn't mean that the baby is "tabula rasa" - empty board on which, you and company, all together, have to write and draw contour of baby's personality. Baby represent consciousness which is, before this, lived previous lives, made and correc-ted mistakes, recognized and developed own abilities and qualities and, step by step, hard and heavily, got a progress in own development. Fruits of that development, just as a fruits of his or her mistakes, dwelling partly or entirely in a Person which momentarily creates your baby, and all understood and learned lessons give him or her unique and unrepeatable seal.
Although, at a glance, it seems that baby is "empty", don't delude yourself, with all personal variances, the baby is also a human being just as you are, difference between you isn't just about 20 years, what is enough to reme-mber it.
Unperceivably, but hard, baby grows and develops, so when you turn around you find yourself when you, faltering explain the way of bees reproduction. The years ago carry memories on experienced, what automatic establish relationship you made - sometimes there are bridges, but sometimes there are walls. For their quality and type, both of you are responsible - proportionally to own age, level and possibilities of understanding, sincerity of intentions, roles in decision making in family and much more.
Inasmuch there are bridges, your relations are impregnated by understanding, respect, togetherness, love and other positive attributes. Among you, from time to time, comes to misunderstandings and brawls, but they never reach so deep in order to be saturated by hate and desire to make enemy degraded and destroyed, but those are passing and slightly brawls.
Inasmuch there are walls and if you are inside, then you are often exposed to suffering.
Many times four walls makes a prison with no escape possible, but pain is daily. Although rounded by the world, you are alone, no one hand will no stretch to unlock a door of your prison, even not by those who completely understand depth of your pain.
Generally, you are the slave of the world and relationships which dominate in it, those how its really are today, and your jailer is just somebody who perceives just his personal interest - "better side of life". You represent prey -victim under the jailer's property, mostly got by birth or marriage while he in an outside world, just as majority of people, with arrival at home, in wardrobe leaves Actor and becomes again what he really is - sovereign of own kingdom i housekeeper of life and death of own vassals.
You are family.