THE FEAR
You hate what you afraid of, you are afraid of those what makes own echo inside you.
Do you remember those kids who went to the bed with fear and involuntarily for a sleep, asking their parents to leave light turned on in their room or, at least a little bit opened door. Even hard parental assurance that they are entirely safe and that there is no reasons for fear, didn't make a result to make them quiet. They felt that their parents are wrong, because they knew that under their bed is hiding a Monster Who Eats Little Children.
The only one who believed them and defended them was their Teddy Bear, also known as a Teddy Bear - The Killer Of The Monster Which Is Hiding Under The Bed And Eats Little Children. Because of that, the majority of them, from gratitude for his help to survive their childhood, in their adulthood still keep at the showily place in the vitrine.
If you are one of those kids - and it seems you are, fasten your seat belt, because we are going to write about something what you meant that is left forever under the bed of your childhood - we will write about Fear.
Everybody afraid. To be more precisely, all those who have Ego, afraid. All those who have no Ego are Illuminated. If you are not Illuminated, then you afraid, no matter how much you hide it from other. Or from yourself.
What is the fear?
The fear is automatic reaction of Ego in cases it feels in danger, regardless of reason.
How many fears exist?
There are two basic groups of fear: real and unreal fears.
Real fears
These fears for a cause have visible and directly danger, on which your Ego responds. This manifestation of fear, mostly is expressed at three follow ways:
- Blockade as a reaction on fear, appears if you are exposed to suddenly and intensive fear, which leads to particular kind of your nervous system's fluid, so thereby there is no any reaction on fear at you - ("I was frozen of fear...").
- Delay is a reaction when you respond firstly (escape, fight...), and then you let yourself to experience and feel that fear.
- Suppression is a reaction on fear and it represents in advance built thoughtful-emotional attitude, whereby you don't allow at all any appear and manifestation of fear in your consciousness or behaviour. However, such a suppressed fear doesn't disappear at all, but it exhibits later at some other way, often as a family violence.
- Acceptance is a reaction on fear whereby it is not experienced in negative sense, but it is accepted as a natural and automatic reaction of Ego. Basic idea of acceptance doesn't consist of its defeating, because it will appears again in some other form, but first at all it relates on consciously understanding of its nature, cause which led to its appearance and consequences which remains behind us.
By acceptance you allow to fear to consciously manifests inside you and through that manifestation, releases itself of the living energy and stops to exist.
Unreal fears
Unlike of real, unreal fears are more complex, and they originate inside you as a consequence of previously experienced negative events, so although they have no real existing "reason" for its origination, they can be very active.
These fears for their existing can be grateful at all to to the traumas from the past, whereby appearance of any element (which in most cases you aren't aware) of that trauma, which, in your case, has a role of conditional reflex which activates fear at the back of the mind.
Inasmuch unreal fear lasts to long, that it grows into the phobia.
AUTOHOMOPHOBIA
The biggest men's fear is the fear of possible own homosexuality.
It seems that this fear is formed in early childhood, about 4-6 years of living when the kid have no image what sexuality actually is and when the kid is very liable to verbal programing.
Mainly, everything starts with teasing of the child by adults and by the persons of the same age, that he is chicken-hearted, weepy, spoiled..., so probably because of that, he is a girl.
Although in that age the child doesn't know for real is he a boy or a girl and what it actually means, this is very serious problem for a child and very serious challenge. To defend himself from such a serious accusation, and to be clearly differed of the girl, he accept a model of behaviour which is based on increased aggressiveness and violence, namely, machismo, what is usually encouraged by the adults - ("Oh, see him, he is the same as a father...grandfather, uncle...").
Because of that,10 years later, you can see a huge groups of young boys filled by hate and violence, unaware of the basic intention of that violence - demonstration to the others, even themselves, not they are men - what is evidently, but they aren't a girls.
By incoming in a period of puberty, so in a later age, that fear from the childhood doesn't disappear but it evaluates and take the only one acceptable form of existing - form of fear of own homosexuality.
Autohomophobia and aggressiveness
After the struggle for a power, this is maybe the biggest reason of chronically aggressiveness of the men's majority.
Man is always concerned that maybe he isn't macho enough, namely, aggressive as other men from his ambient are, so he afraids that if he allow him to be so "soft", it can result that he is considered by other men that he belongs to a group of "suspicious". Or he starts to be in doubt about himself.
Because of that, visible manifestation of own aggressiveness, for him represents the most secure protection of autohomophobia.
It's interesting to say that the bigger is fear of own homosexuality, the bigger is hate toward them who manifest that homosexuality.
Importance of autohomophobia understanding
Observed through the history, it is interesting that attitude of one nation or the state toward homosexuality, at the some strange way has a bigger importance for heterosexuals, than a gay population.
Namely, it represents some kind of test jack paper, which shows error free the state of that nation's consciousness, from which originate suitable social order of the country, with precisely prescribed level of freedoms in it.
As a comparison we can observe any anglo-saxon country, then the most powerful european country from the age of World War II and the group of present countries where homosexuality doesn't exist, because the punishment for that is hanging.
The question is: - "In which one, of the mentioned countries, everyone of us would choose to live with own family "?
Moreover, understanding of this fear leads to the gradually and important reduction of causelessly personal aggressiveness, what very quickly reflects on all our relationships - especially on family's, allowing that you maybe feel a deep equanimity inside you for the very first time and helps you to gradually accept love as your basic and natural state of consciousness.