SEX
Sex. One word. Three letters. Many pleasures and many problems.
Since the time of matriarchy, when the woman hunted her man with a cudgel, until present patriarchy, when she makes that same man to believe that this time he caught her, sex had an important role.
In case of your relationship isn't followed by suitable sexual pleasure, soon that will provoke your dissatisfaction.
If you are conservative educated, you'll simply avoid conversation about "that", however, sexual problems will immediately reflect on your other relationships. You or she will mutually become nervous and dissatisfied , so the at least mistake of anyone of you will lead you to wrangle and brawl.
Although for a longer time you don't feel mutually passion and attraction, you'll go together on weddings, funerals, birthdays and other social gatherings. As long as fire which makes you to expect with a joy every return to home has burnt out, in time you'll start to feel disaffected and you'll become two persons connected with mutually children, obligations, interests and with a promise ("I'll love you up to...), who share the same residential space. However, you still have natural need to feel something more of mechanical-and-on-marital-duty-sex.
You want Passion.
It is intelligible that its absence makes you worried, so you ask yourself is everything OK with you. To check it again, you are entering in shorter or longer adventure and "oh, everything is OK", makes you to feel better.
So you are going on.
Plugged between internal need and external form of relationship / marriage, controled by partner's jealousy and persecuted by own guilty, you are going on regardless of the final result.
The people who are more opened and more sincered, talk about sex. What fits to you, what fits to her, what kind of tenderness you expect and what kind of tenderness she expects from you. When in time you passion become weaker or get lost, you are looking together for causes of that. You are asking a doctor for advice, you are reading books, you are searching on Internet, you are trying new sexual poses, you are buying sexy underwear, many tools and so on to make your relationship's passion recovered.
Sometimes, something of that can help, but generally, things are different beside the state at the beginning of the relationship. The passion has blenched, but you don't know why. Gradually you start to experience yourself as a two persons connected with mutualy children, obligations, interests and promise ("I'll love you up to..."), which share the same residential space. Deep inside you, there is a worm of dissatisfaction and of slightly frustration with a life as something casually and variable.
He didn't realize his promise, you did.
But guilt, if there still exists is nobody's, because it is the most natural energetic relationship between man and woman.
Your mutually attraction leads to enhanced energetic charge in all chakras, from which the sexual is the most active. Although you are making different polarities, both of you have a need to be joined and in such a state to experience increasing of that energy. When her charge achieves culmination you can stand, then both of you release energies you kept until then, whereby their mixing appearing. You fill happiness. Wonderful experience, but very short. It is intelligible that you want to repeat it, but more you trying, the effect is more weaker. Your polarity has lost your charge due establishing of increased common energetic system.
Your passion has gone off.
And what it seems as the end is, in fact, wonderful continuation of your relationship.
Sex is natural expression of struggle for the power.
Technically observed, it's a struggle between two Egos, from which, one is always stronger and more persistent, so at the same time also more powerful. Sexual power always overbears other kinds of power so it is conclusively in mutually struggle between two persons. Because of that, Ego uses sex many times as a punishment, prize, instrument of payment, for extortion, as a goods or anything else, what it remembers. It is used for establishing and enhancing of its Personal Power, and thereby own sexual power man and woman experience at the similar way.
As a man, you'll be impacted by dimension and sexual power of your manliness. If somebody ask you how many times you can do it, you'll always give an answer such is: "Two hours", including in that two traditional hours a way from workplace to the home, washing of your car, installation of TV antenna on the roof, with a little bit of sex, before or after these activities.
As a woman, you'll be concerned about your look and power you have over the men or leastwise over one of them. As he is, you are also impacted with dimensions of your visible sexuality - breasts and you are aware of your biggest enemy - time.
Sometimes you are satisfied by sex, often no, because your mutually energies are so different. His sexual power is quick and aggressive, while your's is slower and more passive. While his energies are at the culmination, your's just starting to be awake. Unfortunately, with classic sex that energetic difference you are making enhanced, so gap between you is bigger and bigger. With culmination you experience something, there is some ecstasy, alleviation and so much else, but...but you have a sense that is not everything what sex can offer to you.
So, it is exactly like that, you (namely, your intuition) simply know what your Ego doesen't want to hear - sex is natural and the most beautiful way which allow you to fill your energetic system with spiritual energies of Love. But, Ego doesn't want to listen about that due one very important reason - in that case, it represents surplus.
Because of that, to experience the most beautiful feeling of Love energies and unity with your partner, both of you must to give up from mutually struggle and get resign.
Reconciliation doesn't represent any secret, esotheric-sexual technique, but it is simply told, absence of Ego during sex.
RECONCILIATION
Man lies on his back, when you are in position over him. When you joined each other, lie over him and stay such a joined.
That's the whole description of Reconciliation.
"Just like that? Just like that?! Oh, come on, man, it's a nonsense, hey, nonsense!" - your Ego already makes a noise.
Just like that.
Of course, your Ego will want to interpose between you, to separate you and start to control the whole process. He will want to accelerate it, to make it slow, to force you to start to move, to introduce some new kind of breathing, technique of perineum contraction, technique of anything else, anything what could lead to its retention.
Don't make a fight with it because you are going to lose for sure. Don't push it away from you because with that act you are going to attract it much more. Don't think about are you good in technique realizing, because it is not existing. Don't esteem, don't estimate, don't mentally note it, don't make you nervous, don't get bore...simply said, whatever of your Ego's activities is passing through your mind, don't accept it.
Don't do anything, just be what you are.
Just like that.